"assholedom" means: The state or condition of an asshole, or objectionably antisocial person.. This is strong language and parents may reasonably want to discuss when, where and around whom it is used. It is not usually a sign of trouble on its own; many teens use such words to fit in with peers. A calm conversation about register, audience and consequences (school, work, family) tends to be more useful than a ban. Pay attention to the target of the language more than the word itself.