Abide fail means: When you tried to stay chill and roll with it but completely lost the plot anyway - the moment when your abide mode cracked under pressure and you reacted exactly the way you swore you wouldn't. An. It has drug-related associations; worth a calm conversation about which side of the topic your teen is on. If your teen uses it, context will usually make the intent clear. A short, curious question about where they heard it is usually all that is needed to know whether to follow up.