benching fail
A benching fail is what happens when your half-hearted back-pocket strategy backfires spectacularly — the person you kept warm on the sidelines either gets fed up, finds someone better, or calls you out publicly.
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A benching fail is what happens when your half-hearted back-pocket strategy backfires spectacularly — the person you kept warm on the sidelines either gets fed up, finds someone better, or calls you out publicly. Instead of securing a convenient safety net you end up with nothing but receipts of your own bad behavior. The digital age has made benching fails more brutal than ever: screenshots travel fast, and the person you were stringing along often has the group chat on their side before you even realize the game is up.
Classic benching fail — he kept her on read for three months and she showed up to his birthday with his coworker.
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