Breadcrumbing, also called Hansel and Grettelling, is the practice of sporadically feigning interest in another person in order to keep them interested, despite lacking genuine investment in the relationship.
Breadcrumbing may occur in familial relationships, friendships, and workplaces, but is most common in romantic contexts, particularly with the surge of online dating.
Feeding someone just enough attention — a random like, a "hey stranger" text every few weeks — to keep them interested without committing to anything real.
“Breadcrumbing, also called Hansel and Grettelling, is the practice of sporadically feigning interest in another person in order to keep them interested, despite lacking genuine investment in the relationship.”
“Breadcrumbing may occur in familial relationships, friendships, and workplaces, but is most common in romantic contexts, particularly with the surge of online dating.”
Breadcrumbing is when someone sends just enough flirty messages to keep you interested but never commits or meets up. Common dating-app vocabulary. Not directly concerning, but worth conversations about emotional boundaries and recognising when someone is wasting your time. If your kid uses it constantly, ask them where they first heard it, not to police their speech but to understand which online community they are in.
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How people talk about dating apps, modern romance, and the situationships they swear they're over — from ghosting and breadcrumbing to soft-launching, hard-launching, and the ick.
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Breadcrumbing usually escalates exactly when you stop caring. The moment you delete their contact, expect a "hey stranger." The algorithm of their lonely hours brings them back; your peace brings them back faster. Respond at your own emotional cost.
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